CoCo: I'm going to have a My Little Pony Show party.
Me: Oh, really?
Yeah, I'm making invitations - you want to see one?
Don't ask me how the hell he knows about how to make invitations or how they are used.
Oh, very nice!
Yeah, those are 'pony sparkles' at the bottom there.
Okay. Very nice. Where is the party?
At our house!
Oh, yeah? Who's coming?
I've invited Sarah, Beth, Susan, Lisa, Terry, Martha, Darla, Deidre, and Betty.* But, Sarah is coming early to help set things up.
Oh, okay. [Set WHAT up??]..... Did you invite any boys?
I invited some, but there was only one boy who said he was interested. They don't really like girl things.
Really? How surprising. [I held back from going into my whole gender socialization rant about how we as a society keep boys from being able to express themselves fully by insisting they repress anything that can connect them to their female counterparts. I struggle with it myself - worrying that if I allow him to wear pink things (as an extreme example) the poor boy will be ostracized] When is the party?
This Saturday or next Saturday.
Interesting. CoCo, if you actually want to have a party, you have to ask your parents first and all the kids have to ask their parents, too. Did the other kids talk to their parents about it?
Yeah, well, it's probably a good idea if all the kids talk to their parents about it first. Also, let's not make it at our house. The park is probably better.
The next day, just when I think all this is behind us, I get an email from one of the Kindergarten parents. She says she has no idea whether this is all in her daughter, Sadie's* head, but that Sadie keeps talking about a My Little Pony party that CoCo is hosting and that she is extremely excited. This very intuitive mother says she has no idea if it's real or not, but she'd be happy to set up a play date for them.
I ask CoCo about all this and he responds:
Oh, yeah, the party is today. Sarah can't make it, though. She's traveling to another state today - Oregon or something. So, Sadie is stepping in to help me set things up.
Wait, what? You told people there was a party today??
Yes, I made new invitations and told everyone to ask their parents and that the party was today at the community park.
So, I made the play date and then emailed ALL the parents of his Kindergarten class at 9am, told them I had no idea if this was real, but that we'd be at the park at 10 and they were all welcome to join us.
No one showed up except Sadie, which we explained to CoCo was understandable since no one seemed to have asked their parents except Sadie. The two met up and were very excited. Sadie even brought her My Little Pony doll. Ten minutes into the play date, CoCo informed me he was done and wanted to go home to read his Star Wars book. I
Just like his mother: enjoys organizing and planing and bringing people together, but hates being the host and wants to just go back to some quiet reading as soon as possible.
Fast-forward to 4pm today. We ran into another little girl, Emma*, from CoCo's class and her mother on our afternoon walk through the neighborhood. Apparently, Emma has also been talking about a party and furiously making invitations of her own. HAH!
Meanwhile, I received several responses from parents of boys who received my email invitation later in the day. None of the boys had been discussing invitations or parties, but were very interested in setting up a play date with CoCo. When I mentioned it to CoCo, he responded:
Yeah, that's fine, but they don't like girl things.
You know, CoCo, it's okay to have different things in common with different people. They might not like girl things but I bet some of them like Star Wars.
*names have been changed to protect the innocent